One last comment on the USSF – Fabulosa Mujer, who I had the pleasure of meeting and spending some little time with watching musical fountains in Atlanta and just hanging out, posts her thoughts on the forum. One particular unpleasant experience she had with some “another world is possible, another America is necessary attendees” was over her taking Baby Fab to a workshop
One moment I have to highlight, even though I’m conflicted about giving these couple of incidences more of my time and energy than deseved, it is about the structure of anti-family friendly activist spaces and the ageism AND sexism behind shit talking to parents, usually mothers about caretaking small children in public. As mentioned already by BFP I fought with my unshaken presence a few hostile but loud Another World is Possible, Another US is Necessary attendees about the audacity of taking a small child into a workshop. I got the look, the “ssshhh” and the calm your child and take her out of this room, she’s too young to be here remarks
As Fab goes on to say, most people were helpful and welcoming but still the experience leaves you with a bad taste especially when some so called progressive social form another world people are so hostile to children, women and families. Fab’s story reminded me of a post I wrote a couple of years back which received some reactionary anti-baby, woman hating responses…….Mama’s Tendo’s Story
was a very short piece about the right to breast feed in public.
Here is the first comment –
Well, I know that every mum has a right to feed her kid but I don’t understand why women have to breast feed their kids in public. I’m also female and I can tell you that it is a very disgusting thing to watch women breast-feeding their kids in public. I think it is something that women should do in the privacy of their homes
It gets worse as the next comment in response to my statement that breast feeding is natural, begins by associating breast feeding with shitting and pissing and then having sex……..
“Why should mothers have to go scurrying to their home or to the toilet of all places to do something that is so natural.” Isn’t passing water and defecating also “natural?” And yet they are not done in public. What about sexual intercourse? For most people that is done in private as well. Yes, babies need to be fed, but doesn’t that mean the mother needs to adjust her life to the baby’s schedule, not to her own personal convenience?
Jannie of Startle the Echoes has the last word – unfortunately she’s not blogging anymore – she ask’s the question
Are women really filled with so much self-hate that the mere thought of seeing a breast is found to be disgusting? I hope not.
But its not just about self-hate but the right we as women have over our own bodies and the right of our children to be nurtured and cared for by us – if that is what we choose, while we try to negotiate our lives and our work. If you can afford a baby sitter or trust one, great but there are many of us out there who cannot and or choose not too and are not going to lock ourselves in doors because the sight of our children or breasts offend some people.